For many of us, an elegant cocktail party can be a little intimidating. In this video, Mina-Jacqualine Au offers an overview of cocktail party etiquette so you can be comfortable, confident, and charming at your next NYC event.

She stresses the importance of being gracious to your host, respectful to the staff, and not taking advantage of the host’s generosity by taking more of your share of the food, drinks, and gift bags. It is also important to dress appropriately, which may require doing a little research before the party. If you follow these guidelines, even the most formal events can be relaxed and fun.